As a nation, we are improving the awareness of mental health and digital media has thankfully played a positive part in this and we are able to spread the message more widely and independently. But for years, mental health has been covered up and has always been a taboo subject.
Even though you’d think by now, it was obvious and fair to say that the majority of us suffer from some form of mental health condition or have done at some point in our lives. Mental health is a broad term and covers an array of labels and titles which come in many forms and levels of severity. Some people can go through life without ever really noticing and some will never fully recover.
On and off throughout my life, I have experienced depression which has ranged from mild to clinical, as well as PND and high anxiety. I’ve never been diagnosed with any other mental health issue but I am pretty certain I have had OCD and when I was younger I had anorexia.
Life isn’t easy and it’s unsurprising that we can find things hard to cope which can often lead to a breakdown of our mental state. The human mind is complex and we still don’t fully understand it. Evolution has progressively made things tougher for us as we all seem to be striving and wanting more.
Wanting to improve ourselves to our radical ideals and high expectations.
Wanting to please others all the time.
Wanting to win in all areas of our life.
It can sometimes feel like we are setting a program in our minds of a destination we want to get to and we have to achieve XYZ in the process. Alarmingly, we pile the pressure onto ourselves and reach a block and we can no longer move forward; which causes us reason to feel like a failure and can ignite anxiety and lead on to depression.
Some of our behaviours are genetic and some are environmentally influenced. So given the fact that life is not perfect, life is not easy and there are billions of humans that walk our earth and we are all different… Why do we find it hard to accept that the majority of us have some form of mental health issue or have at least experienced one?
Is it because it’s still the unknown? Are we scared of getting into a conversation about someone’s thoughts? If we were more open, more understanding and more accepting of mental health, what kind of a world would we live in?
I believe we are conditioned to have this attitude that we must crack on and remain strong when facing adversity. When actually what we are doing is living in denial and brushing our problems under the carpet with the potential to develop another issue later on in life.
Of course, there are some mental health issues that cannot be “cured” but there are ways of making life easier for that person by using certain daily coping mechanisms in daily life. My brother who has Autism and ADHD manages with lots of support and rightly so. Our vulnerable need as much guidance, support and encouragement as possible.
Personally, I have heavily relied on self-help and help from my mum who has been my personal counsellor in life – I have no idea what I would do without her and I know I am really lucky for her love, support and guidance.
Sadly, so many are less fortunate and need to rely on communities and the public sector. We can still be the change and make a positive impact on others by:
Be more accepting
Be kinder to ourselves and others
Live in the here and now
Evaluate our values
It’s all too easy to fall into a negative mind trap and feel like we can’t make a difference to someone’s day but we can.
Light and love
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