Finding ways to unwind after a stressful day needs to be high on the agenda and it’s definitely a task we are coming round to. We are embracing self-care more than ever and we are experiencing the benefits of this. Most successful people practice self-care on a daily basis. They make it part of their lives, their routine, their everyday.
Most of us live in a fast-paced, hi-tech, media-fuelled world which can lead to energy levels being zapped left right and centre. More and more, we find ourselves in demand on a daily basis whether that be from our bosses, clients, peers, family members and so on. Life can get easily stressed and can ultimately have an impact on our mental health.
We often look at our day and think it’s far too busy to schedule in some decent downtime, we often fill our days with mundane crap that can easily be replaced with some refreshing self-care. I am guilty of this, so this post is as much for you as it is for me.
Religiously, I was ensuring I was meditating, practising mindfulness and exercising daily and I felt amazing and everything happening in my life was going incredibly well. But something changed. A couple of months ago, I started to flake, I started to doubt, I started to get disheartened. It’s only natural I guess. I felt like I was slogging my guts out but for what? Nothing was manifesting as quickly as I wanted it to, or so I thought.
The trouble with the lifestyles we lead today is that we expect everything to happen instantly. We want a new car, we get one. We want a new house, we increase our mortgage. We want the latest designer kicks, we buy them. Social media has encouraged us to receive instant gratification, we want likes, we want blog hits, we want comments. There seems to be a lot of wanting and not enough giving.
This past couple of months I have been lucky enough to work with Emily from Number Savvy Numerology who I can’t stress enough is absolutely amazing – I don’t think she knows just how amazing she is. Emily and I connected and I can honestly say, I am so grateful for our connection. She has guided me through a dark period of my life through the amazing work she does and despite a lot of fears and concerns presenting themselves, I am facing them in a more relaxed way. Had I been in my current situation 6 months ago, I would have been a nervous wreck.
Not drinking has most definitely helped too and cutting back on starchy carbs and refined sugar and quitting coffee are all major reasons why I am coping with a very stressful period of my life right now.
Self-care has also played a huge part in this too and I have loved setting aside time for me and me alone to focus on the things I love to do aside from being a mother.
So after a stressful day, you will likely find me doing one or a few of the following things:
- Have a hot bath – there really is nothing quite like having a hot soak to wash away a stressful day. It totally transforms my state of mind and I destress almost instantly. The trick is to have it as close to your bedtime as possible so that you are relaxed enough to go straight to sleep.
- Read – I love reading and I have several books on the go at one given time. Reading something light before bed is encouraged. It’s always best to keep the heavier stuff for the day.
- Workout – it doesn’t need to be a full-on workout, just do whatever suits your level of fitness. Before children, I would go to the gym, then come home and run for an hour and then go for a bike ride. Because I am not able to do that anymore, I just either do a session of kettlebells or yoga.
- Meditate – I like to use guided meditation or practice some mindfulness. Either work well and are a lovely release of stress. You can use apps or find mp3 or videos via the internet. I also quite like going to sleep with some meditation music now and again.
- Turn off tech – no matter how tempting it is to play another game of Words With Friends or chat to a mate online late a night, turn off all the tech and keep it out of sight a good hour before bed (says she, writing this blog post at 9.30 pm) My tech will go off before I have my hot bath, practiced 10 minutes of mindfulness and 10 minutes of grounded meditation.
- Go for a walk – if you can, walking really clears the mind. So if you can get out in the fresh air and talk a nice calm walk then get out there. Most mornings we scoot to school and I walk back which is a nice time to clear my mind. Sometimes, we go for a walk before dinner to unwind from the day and even with the girls in tow it’s pleasant (until one falls over or get tired) but it’s nice all the same to get out in the open air.
- Watch a film/program – it’s nice to escape your own world now and again and submerse yourself into another. I used to hate TV, it really wasn’t something I enjoyed. I love films but had to be in the mood to sit still that long. I love going to the cinema but for day to day, TV is cheaper and more convenient. Lately, I have been enjoying the following TV shows: Suits, Jane The Virgin, The Crown and The Peaky Blinders. I always watch films now too thanks to Netflix and Amazon.
So as you can see, there’s a lot of ways you can unwind after a long and stressful day. Investing in a good night routine sets yourself up for a success the next day. You just need to make the promise to yourself that you will put your needs before others now and again.
I hope this little list helps and you get to take advantage of using a few of these from time to time. As always, thank you for reading.
Light and love