When I sat behind my desk day in, day out at work, I would dream of being able to work from home. I had been so close in the past but due to personal circumstances I had to sacrifice my dream at that point in my life.
Before becoming a mum, I was in advertising, I had a job that was going to see me travel to places like Singapore, Dubai, Norway and many more. Returning to work after twins and all that travel wasn’t going to be easy. My now ex, had also just changed his job which meant he lived and worked away Monday to Friday.
It was not an easy part of my life and I can’t believe it’s approaching 3 years since I ended the relationship.
Daily I battled PND and high anxiety all whilst trying to figure out how I was going to make an income without having to go to an office and put the girls into a nursery.
It crippled me thinking I had to leave them with someone and going back to my old job was not an option especially as they treated me so badly throughout the pregnancy.
I started a blog around the time the girls were 8 months old. I had zero clue what I was doing and my blog posts were awful, graphics were horrendous and I sometimes cringe at the thought that I published some of the stuff that I did. But I don’t regret it, it was all one giant learning curve and I have learnt a lot!
Nearly three and a half years on, my work now consists of running social media accounts for clients, running this blog, managing my online shop and my own social media accounts, designing WordPress sites for clients, consulting and running a blog course.
Juggling can be tricky at times when you are a single parent to twins. I have two very demanding children, amazing children but demanding none the less.
We don’t like being stuck in doors for too long, getting out in the fresh air is so important to us and spending quality time together. After all, this is not going to happen again, you can’t re-write yesterday. Making happy memories with my girls is my number one priority.
They know mummy works, they know that mummy juggles and they see mummy juggles.
There’s the house to look after, the girls of course, general day to day stuff, seeing family and friends and making sure everything runs as best as it can.
I work 6 evenings out of 7, I work when they are at nursery, I sometimes cram little bits of work in whilst we watch a film (no guilt when we’ve see that said film for the 100th time). But they know, I will give my 100% focus more often than not. They know that mummy might have a deadline and she quickly needs 5 minutes on the laptop to fix something.
Every other weekend, they spend with their dad and I work – this is the best time for me to do the bulk of my work and I use those weekends to catch up and really crack on so that when the girls are back work is very limited.
I don’t want them to remember me as the mummy that always worked.
On the days that might have been tougher than the others like the one we had a week back, it’s hard to motivate yourself to work. I have many a time sat with my laptop feeling destroyed, exhausted and wanting to cry.
That’s when I say, no… screw this. I turn the laptop off and watch a film instead. Knowing when to have a break is so important. Early nights, better quality sleep means being able to work faster rather than each task feeling like it’s a mountain to climb.
I’m not saying I’m a pro at this work from home mummy lark but I think I have a good idea what works well and keeps me motivated.
Here Are 6 Ways I Keep Myself Focused and Motivated as a Work From Home Mum
I LOVE my white board. I have a huge one perched on an Ikea picture ledge in my office. I write everything on it – I brainstorm and I write my days to do list. I have no idea how I functioned without one.
I’m one of those people that like to talk through something to problem solve an issue I am struggling on. The white board is great for that.
Know When to Have a Break
As I mentioned above, knowing when to break and doing it is important to keep going. Prioritising deadlines and scheduling in a break to have a movie night or box set night or whatever you enjoy doing is so important. I usually give myself Friday nights off, I have a drink, eat snacks and watch a film.
Make Some Lifestyle Changes
It sounds obvious, but making some subtle lifestyle changes will help you be more productive and motivated. Things such as going to bed an hour earlier, drinking some more water or quitting a habit you need to ditch.
Learn to Say No
Learning when to say no to others can be hard as we don’t like letting people down. But if pleases others needs before our own sacrifices opportunity or even worse sleep, then it’s a no from me.
Setting goals can sometimes sound a bit boring, can’t it? But I promise you, that using the method I use brings results. I was once sceptical about this but I have used it and proved to myself it works. Setting short and long term goals keeps you focused and motivated. Click setting goals to be taken to my Goal Setting Method.
Motivation comes in many shapes and forms. Some people need more than others. I am a very self-motivated person but I still like to treat myself now and again. Rewarding and celebrating my efforts is an important ritual of mine. Rewards can be budget related and focused – they don’t have to be extreme. Spa day, dinner out, relaxing bath, new clothing, new book, a bunch of flowers etc. are all worthy rewards.
My other pearls of wisdom are:
Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
Life is too short not to shop online.
Be your own idol.
If you are ever in doubt about a decision you just can’t make, consult the Magic 8 Ball – game changer!
Light and love