I haven’t really done a ‘general’ life update on here, I tend to concentrate on specifics like when I quit alcohol. Quite a lot has happened these past few months so I thought I would do a general ‘life lately’ update for anyone interested.
The start of the year was really tough, I found myself feeling quite depressed, anxious and alone. January seemed to drag as well and I just felt like I couldn’t wait for it to end. By the February, I soft-launched my new business Goodness Gracious Gift and really concentrate on my self-care message. Also in February, I connected with Emily from Number Savvy Numerology who has become a really good friend to me and I feel so blessed.
At this point, I focused heavily on meditation, mindfulness and generally looking after myself and practicing daily self-care. The power of self-care is incredible and I encourage anyone who feels like they don’t have time or not worthy of self-care to take the challenge today and practice at least one this off list below everyday or better still, make your own list and work your way through it. I ensure I practice at least 10 minutes of self-care every day.
In April, I celebrated one-year writing on this blog. I have been blogging for over four years now but decided to launch a new blog in 2016 but didn’t actually start writing on it until 2017. I felt like I had lost my voice on my old blog and the blog felt so diluted. I am being so much more careful about what I share, how I share it and collaborations. Being a lot more fussy about my content has made me love this blog so much and there isn’t one article I would delete.
I have been working with some amazing brands this past few months and I have more collaborations in store which I know you are going to love. If you would like to stay up to date with the blog, please feel free to sign up for my monthly newsletter – sign up form at the bottom of the page.
Last year, I really piled on the pounds and I hated what I looked like. It wasn’t me at all and every time I looked in the mirror, I was peeping through my fingers because I cringed at how awful I looked. Thankfully, at the end of August (nearly one year ago), I quit alcohol (and coffee) and it was one of the best things I did for myself. I put a lot of the weight gain down to drinking and binge eating when the girls would stay at their dad’s for the weekend. I was falling into some really low moments and feeding the self-loathing. Since last year I have lost 2 stone, 2 stone I will and never see again. I just won’t do that to myself again. Depression is powerful and affects you mentally and physically. I have experienced weight gain and dramatic weight loss (14 years of on and off eating disorders). Both are equally as bad, I am just so grateful I have battled both sides now and have a healthier mindset towards weight.
I have come out the other side and I have self-care to thank for that.
Because I had been concentrating on myself, work had taken a bit of a backseat early on in the year. Last year, I did let a couple of clients go because I felt that they became all-consuming and I wasn’t able to focus on myself at all. The decision wasn’t taken lightly, after all, I am a single parent (there’s only one income) but I had to do what I had to do. I have been working on a couple of social media clients this year which I love – probably because they are wonderful which always helps. After really taking care of myself and getting myself mentally stronger, I finally landed a new job which I applied for in February and started training in July. The timing has been perfect and I can’t wait to get through training and start cracking on with the job. I feel so grateful to work for such an amazing company with amazing people and the best bit, it’s working from home which means minimal disruption for the girls. At the time of talking to the current job, I was offered an HR role which had huge potential but childcare was proving to be an absolute nightmare. This is proof why somethings just don’t work out – there is always something better waiting ahead.
I have been to a fair few events these past few months (too many to mention them all) but the highlights have included a National Award Ceremony where I was a finalist and found myself on the local radio talking about it running up to the event. It was such an honour to meet these amazing ladies.
I was also lucky enough to go to the Foo Fighters concert with one of my best friends of 20 years. We had such an awesome night and I nearly cried from being so happy. It was a surreal experience.
I have also attended two Creative Women Networking events hosted by Maggy from Red Ted Art and Vicki from Honest Mum. I was an anxious mess at the first one which was early this year but felt so much more confident on the last one. I am hoping to make the one they have in September. They have been hugely inspiring and motivating – please read about the first event here.
It was also one of my best friends birthdays – her hubby planned a special surprise party for her 30th. The following day I was at a Christening for my friend’s little boy who I am godmother too. It’s been a fun-filled few months.
The Girls Turn 5
I can’t believe in less than a month my little babies will be turning 5 – I remember people saying to me when they were babies, “before you know it, they’ll be going to school” and boy they were right. The transition should be fairly painless because they have been going to the nursery which is next door to the class they will be in for reception and they will have the same teacher for some of the time as she will be job sharing with another teacher. They will be with children they have known for the past year and have already got friends in the year above as they were in the nursery for a previous 8 months before the new September starters joined.
They graduated from their nursery in July with a gorgeous ceremony with their class and I couldn’t have been prouder of these two.
I have been planning a birthday party for them for this year and have gone for a Unicorn themed party. Last year, they had a Disney Frozen themed birthday as they were still obsessed at this point. All is going well so far, entertainer booked, hall booked, RSVPs in, outfits sorted, I just need to get the food and party bags sorted which is in process. I will be sure to share some snaps over on Instagram. This is probably the last “big” party that I will do until they are 10 as I have decided to do experiences from now on and I am thinking Legoland Winsor stay in the Castle hotel next year.
Plans for September Onwards
When September comes (which scarily isn’t that far away now), I have huge plans to do a variety of things which include starting adult ballet which I briefly talked about a couple of months ago. The girls re-start their new class in September too – they adore ballet and it’s been really good for them and they have made new friends as well as getting to go with two of their really good friends. They will also continue their swimming lessons which they really love and get to go with one of their best friends. They also start rainbows – but I am keeping an open mind about this as I don’t want to overload them and put too much on them for after school.
I will be able to increase hours of work which will be great and by then, I should be well on my way to getting my head around it all. It’ll soon be autumn, which is a season I absolutely love so expect lots of posts from me about autumn and of course Christmas. But mainly, I will be focusing on the girls and schooling (as always), continuing self-care, my blog, my new job, our home and my new hobbies.
I have huge amounts to be grateful for and for that alone I am thankful. Writing in my gratitude book has really enhanced my passion for gratitude and I definitely notice the difference in day to day life.
So there it is, just a little round up of life lately from us.