We’ve all heard how that by not worrying about what others think of us is a way to overcome confidence issues, haven’t we? Whilst I agree to some extent, I do strongly believe that we should care what some people think of us.
It would be entirely impossible to be liked by absolutely everyone – that’s a task that will never be achieved and not one we should even concern ourselves with. Therefore, we need to stop worrying about what everyone thinks of us and concentrate on the some.
By not caring about what others think it generally attracts an attitude of not caring about our actions. We seem to give ourselves a green light for behaviours we wouldn’t usually accept in ourselves. I do believe that we shouldn’t limit ourselves based on the opinions of others, but we should set a standard based on gaining respect from others.
Our actions can be influenced by what we are trying to attract in our lives and how our minds are programmed. If we constantly think and act negatively, then negative things are likely to happen. By having an awareness of our thoughts and actions towards others and current circumstances, I do believe we are better informed by making positive decisions.
In short, having a lack of care towards what others think of us only spells hostility, dismissive behaviour and a negative belief in yourself. Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with caring what other people think of you, if anything, it’s a form of motivation to be the best possible person you can be isn’t it?
I’m not saying that we should worry ourselves into anxiety but we should have some decency about ourselves and want to aspire to be the very best we can be.
It’s about having a balance of the two sides. Being humble enough to accept we need to have an awareness of how we come across and our behaviour towards others as well as not limiting ourselves which may prevent us from leading the life we have always imagined whilst being respected from both sides.
Ultimately it boils down to being respected. It’s about being respectful and being respected back. Respect is earnt and I would rather be respected for who I am, how I treat others, what I stand for and how I behave.
One of my favourite quotes is:
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
― Roy T. Bennett,
If you didn’t already know, my tagline is… Making Postive Choices.