Growing up I just assumed my personality type steered to being an extrovert – it’s how I was identified by people. But I knew different. Despite being thrown into situations that meant I had to be the talker, the confident one, the life and soul, at times I found it hard to be consistent with this extrovert personality.
As a kid, I had lots of friends but was probably my happiest when I was writing, reading and drawing. But there was a part of me that wanted to be liked by all. I found the extra confident kids fascinating because they had something that I lacked. So I always had this battle being socially torn between wanting to hang out with friends but equally wanting to be in my own company. Maybe I was more of an introvert?
By nature I am a friendly person, I talk to anyone. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I love to make people smile and laugh. But some days I don’t feel like being that person and I can become insular – that’s when I get mistaken for being rude when actually I just might not be responding to that type of social stimulation at that point.
I am outgoing but in an introvert kind of way. I am confident, but inwardly and I am expressive about subjects that I feel comfortable talking about.
I actually fall practically in the middle of extrovert and introvert and known more as an ambivert. I love being around people but I prefer to be in small groups and bond with a few. I prefer to make lasting connections and forge friendships that last for years. I have known my best friends for over 7 years up to 28 years and have made some amazing new friends over the past few years which I know will be friends for years to come.
When I need to recharge, regroup and reenergise, I go inwardly – I read books, I go to the cinema on my own. I’d rather take time out to be alone but occasionally, I will catch up with friends and this tends to be on a one to one basis as well as group social environments. I can basically function in either but prefered choice is toned down events.
Taking a personality test was always going to confirm what I thought to be true. Last year, I took the Myers Briggs Personality Test and it transpires that from the 16 possible personality types, I am an ISTP which means I am an Introversion, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving Personality Type.
The test was practically split down the middle when it came to the introvert/extrovert side and they suggested I veered towards more the introverted side as the rest of my personality type suggested I had stronger introvert aspects of my personality.
These past few years has most definitely been about exploring more about myself and I have learned so much by taking this test. I have been able to identify areas of improvement and areas that are worth working on in order to flourish.
Extract from the 3-page report:
“ISTPs carefully observe what is going on around them. Then, when the need arises, they move quickly to get to the core of a problem and solve it with the greatest efficiency and the least effort. They often function as troubleshooters. ISTPs resist regimentation and rules and enjoy the challenge of solving a new, concrete problem using facts and data.
They value home, family, financial security, health, and autonomy.
- RISK TAKER
ISTPS With Others
- ISTPs want everyone to have the same opportunities and generally are tolerant of a wide range of behaviours.
- When their ruling logical principles are attacked, they can surprise others by expressing firm, clear judgments.
- Others sometimes have trouble “reading” them.
- ISTPs tend to be quiet and reserved, though they can be quite talkative about areas in which they have a lot of knowledge.
- They may feel comfortable socially only with their closest friends.
- They sometimes become so absorbed in one of their interests that they ignore or lose track of others.
The report is very extensive and it also delves deeper into understanding about how my personality type stays motivated, how I respond to feedback, potential career options, decision making and how I express creativity.
So I have been exploring more about this introverted side to me and I watched this video which basically sums up what an introvert is. It doesn’t mean you are a shy mouse or a wallflower, it’s actually about how you respond to stimulation. Watch this amazing TED Talk by Susan Cain – I really resonated with what she says.
Following on my watching this TED Talk, I bought Susan Cain’s book Quiet. I can’t wait to start exploring more about the introverted side to me. As I have aged, I can relate more to this aspect of my personality. being aware of these personality types will also help me identify my children personality traits – we instinctively do as parents but it’s nice to be able to have this backed up by research. I want to be able to support my children as best as possible and each child is different and responds to different stimulations.
Remembering what it was like for me at school is a huge motivating factor in all honestly. I did very well at school but did not respond to the social stimulation. I hated putting my hand up even though 9 times out of 10 knew the answer. I got in with the wrong crowd and ruined my education. I don’t want the same thing happening with my children.
As well as learning from this personality test, I have also been learning more about myself through the art of numerology thanks to the talented and wonderful Emily from Number Savvy Numerology. If you missed my post please do have a read – it was incredibly insightful and I will be sharing more about my experience with Emily and her numerology readings over the coming months. Currently, I am doing her 3-month number savvy numerology business program and I have been enlightened to say the least.
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